ADHD and Relationships Support in Surrey
Helping you understand what keeps happening between you and what might need to change
When ADHD Is Part of the Relationship, But Not the Whole Story
You may find yourselves having the same arguments, missing each other in conversations, or feeling as though one of you is always trying harder to keep things on track.
ADHD may be part of that picture, but it does not explain everything about a relationship. You can also read more about my ADHD-Aware Therapy
I provide ADHD-aware relationship counselling that helps you look at what is actually happening between you, without reducing either person to a diagnosis or deciding in advance who needs to change.
Contact me about help with ADHD and relationships:
I offer a free initial consultation - you don't have to decide whether therapy with me is right for you before getting in touch. We use the initial phone call to speak ADHD Aware Therapy and how this can help you.
You can decide from there what next steps are right for you.
When the Same Problems Keep Coming Back
You might notice conversations becoming arguments very quickly, plans being agreed and then forgotten, one person feeling responsible for holding everything together, or both of you becoming frustrated by patterns neither of you seems able to stop.
Sometimes one person feels criticised while the other feels ignored. Sometimes there is distance, resentment or a growing sense that you are no longer on the same side.
Therapy can help you slow those patterns down and understand what each of you experiences when they happen.
Read more in this blog: Why do I feel unheard in my relationship
ADHD-Aware Relationship Therapy
You do not need to have it all worked out before coming to therapy.
We can look at what happens between you rather than simply deciding that ADHD is the problem.
That might include how you communicate under pressure, how each of you responds to conflict, expectations around responsibility, closeness and space, trust, resentment, intimacy or the effect of stress and alcohol.
The aim is not to make either person fit a prescribed way of relating. It is to understand the patterns you have developed together and work out what might help the relationship move in a healthier direction.
I provide a free 15 minute initial call to help you decide what to do next.
It Is Not About Finding Who Is to Blame
When a relationship has been struggling for some time, it can become easy to divide things into who is trying, who is forgetting, who is overreacting or who is causing the problem.
Understanding ADHD can sometimes make sense of parts of what is happening. It should not become another way of dismissing one person’s experience or excusing behaviour that is hurting the relationship.
Therapy gives both of you space to understand what is happening, take responsibility where it belongs and decide what you want to do differently.
Read more in this blog: Relationships and Arguing
Take the Next Step
You do not need to know whether ADHD is the main issue, whether your relationship can be repaired, or exactly what you want to change before getting in touch.
An initial conversation can help you decide whether working together feels right for you.
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